来源:Angelived中文翻译
“What we focus on, we empowerand enlarge. Good multiplies when focused upon. Negativity multiplies when focused upon. The choice is ours: Which do we want more of?”
- Julia Cameron
我们总是过分在意和放大我们所关注的事物,好的事情会被放大,坏的事情也会被放大,关键在与我们怎样选择。
--茱莉亚.卡梅隆
Are you carrying around some junk? You know, those hurtful and disastrousthings that you may have been told by someone during the course of your life. It was supposed to be taken with a grain of salt or simply ignored but most of the times we take that criticism and wear it like a hat of shame! Negative thinking can make all sorts of things incredibly difficult. It is like a leak in your confidence bucket — constantly drip-drip-dripping away your confidence and self esteem.
你的心中是不是总有一些阴影?你看,在人生的旅途中肯定有人对你说过这样的话:你应该有限度的关注或者尽量忽略那些消极的想法。但实际上大部分时候我们对别人的批评和自己做过的傻事总是过分的在意。消极的想法可以使一些事情变得异常的困难,它就像水桶上的一个窟窿,让你本来满溢的自信和自尊一点点的流失。
Negative thinking can be useful to help assess the possible pitfalls in a potential plan of action, but you need to be able to turn it on and off at will. Otherwise, negative thoughts will sabotageyour self belief, your confidence and your achievements. Here are some effects of negative thinking:
或许消极思考在你评估某些可行性方案的时候是有用的,但你必须学会收放自如。否则,消极思想将会侵蚀掉你的信仰、信心和成就。以下是一些消极思考产生的结果:
Sleeping problems
It can become very difficult to get to sleep, because you feel worse at night. There are a number of reasons why. While you're trying to drop offto sleep, there's nothing to distract you from the worries that may have been lurking in the background during the day.
睡眠障碍
你的入睡会变得困难,因为你在晚上感觉很糟糕。当你尝试入睡的时候,却没有办法清除掉你的潜意识里的白天产生的焦虑。
Sapping your self-confidence
The more problems you think you have, the less able you may feel to cope with them, and this can increase your sense of helplessness. This reduces your confidence, making you more vulnerable to your fears.
腐蚀自信
当你觉得自己越不对劲,你对自己的掌控力就越弱,这会增加你的无助感。它会腐蚀掉你的自信,使你被恐惧打败。
Unhelpful strategies
Under this kind of pressure, it may become very difficult for you to concentrate and carry on with everyday life, so that your problems tend to build up. It's emotionally draining to feel anxious all the time. It may feel as though your whole life is being taken over by it.
错误决策
当处在某种压力之下,你将很难集中精力于当下的事情,导致问题随之而来。你总是惶惶不可终日,感觉整个生活都被它所占据。